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5 Life Lessons I’ve Learned Being Married

5 Life Lessons I’ve Learned Being Married post image happy anniversary gift flowers

Today’s post isn’t about finance, so please feel free to skip. I have to however share this special day on my site.

Happy Anniversary to us! We’ve been happily married for 5 years, but it feels more has been packed in these five years than any other time in my life.

As a way of showing my happiness and gratitude, I want to share 5 lessons I’ve learned these past 5 years.

Marry Someone You Love AND Respect

I’m happy that I married my husband. I truly love my husband – he’s a remarkable guy. I also respect him for who he is. You can love someone and not respect them and vice versa. Being married for the long haul means you need both components.

I believe when you love and respect someone you believe in them and support them. You’re willing to try new things with your spouse even if you’re not completely sure how it will turn out.

Love By Example

I tend to get angry and need some time to cool down before talking. I’ll walk into another room and just stew, replaying the argument in my mind. My husband will wait a bit and will then join me wherever I’m at and sit next to me. He usually asks if I want to talk about it and whether I want to talk about it right then and there, he’ll give me a hug.

If I’m not in the mood to talk he just patiently sits and waits. He’s not trying to rush a solution, he’s not trying to make me feel guilty. It’s his way to let me know that ‘us’ is important to him and he’ll stop whatever he’s doing until we can get things squared away.

Be Ready for Change

All of my friends and family who have been married for many years all mention how many changes they’ve went through together. Life is full of surprises – both ups and downs. Being ready to adapt can smooth out some hard times.

Be a Team

Through all the changes we’ve learned to rely on on another. We work hard to stay united and appreciate each other’s strengths. I’ll be honest it’s work to sometimes appreciate our differences 😉

Becoming parents is the biggest joy and challenge we have and we know that we have to work together everyday. I love seeing my husband just hang out with his daughter, having fun together.

My Baby is Awesome!

This isn’t a lesson per se, but I got to include my baby girl. She is now a part of our anniversary celebration – a happy addition to our family and we can’t wait to see how she grows up.

Looking forward to many more happy years ahead- Happy Anniversary my love!



by Elle Martinez

Elle Martinez helps families at Couple Money achieve financial freedom by sharing tips for reducing debt, increase income, and building net worth. Learn how to live on one income and have fun with the second..

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  1. happy anniversary! those sound like great tips to me : )

    1. Thanks; it’s been a fun ride so far!

  2. Great rules for marriage Elle!

  3. Congrats on five years!

  4. Congratulations on five years! It is always good to hear from people who are succeeding at marriage. It isn’t always easy, but it is worth it!