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It can be a daunting (and sometimes frustrating!), though, when you don't see eye to eye.
Is there a way to help get your spouse on board? Can you save money and your marriage?
How to Help Your Spouse Save More
As the spouse who wasn't a saver, I can tell it's possible to work through things together.
Saving more went from being a chore to an enjoyable habit. I can have fun now and still have something left over for later.
The key was shifting our mindsets and developing better habits, both together and personally.
If you two are trying to sync up with your finances, here are some changes we made that allowed us to find a way of tackling money as a team.
Start Small and Respect Each Other
Don't expect your spouse to make changes overnight. More than likely they've had this habit for years before you two got together, so it will take some time to get them on board.
Understanding how they've picked up these patterns can give you a clearer idea on how to approach them about saving more.
Talking directly about money can be stressful and put some on the defensive, so it may instead be helpful to just talk about goals instead and go from there.
What does your spouse want to do in the next year or five? Do they want to switch jobs, travel more, or start a new hobby?
You may be surprised to find a goal that you can get behind to help them to learn to save.
Split the Difference
What if your husband or wife wants to spend the money you just saved? What do you then?
There are several ways you can tackle this, but you may find keeping small separate accounts a plus.
Go ahead and split the money saved – you can save or invest your half and they can spend theirs.
You may find that your spouse will start seeing a difference without you having to constantly remind them of the benefits of saving.
Show, Don't Just Tell
Speaking of reminders, sometimes, it's better to let the results do the talking.
Even though you really have their (and your family's) best interest at heart, showing them how fun saving can be can be more powerful than telling them.
Do you have something that you really love and want to get (without getting into debt)? Save for it.
Keep your spouse in the loop by having a chart on the fridge with your progress. Perhaps they will see that it really doesn't take long to buy what you want, you just need to have a plan.
Make It Easy to Save
What if it works? What if you get your spouse on board to try and save more money?
Start off with a joint goal that you both want to reach – a debt free vacation, a new television, or just bumping up your emergency fund. The point is you want your spouse to be excited about saving.
Go ahead and make it easy on both of you – automate your savings so the money is transferred as quickly as it is deposited.
That can be a huge help as the money is tucked away before the temptation to spend it kicks in.
This post was originally published in December 2018. It has been updated April 2021.